The last of the Fruit of the Spirit are gentleness and self control.
“And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will.” – 2 Timothy 2:24-26
“A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.” – Proverbs 25:28
Our calling is to be gentle to everyone, not just our friends and family.
Usually, I am upset at drivers who cause traffic issues. One day, my family and I were driving down the highway and we saw an elderly man trying to lug his spare from the trunk. I was going way too fast to stop and help, so I drove on, and vocalized how sad it was.
By the time I reached the next exit, I resolved to go back and help. I took the exit and doubled back. By the time I got there, another man was changing the tire. Once finished, they needed air in the spare. The other guy said he had to go and gave them directions to the gas station. I told them I had nowhere to be, so I led them. The couple tried to pay us both, but he outright refused. They insisted on paying me and I asked them to give it to charity if they felt inclined.
I tell that story not to achieve accolades, but to point to the Holy Spirit. None of those actions are in my nature. I am a selfish, vindictive, spiteful creature. I don’t stop and help anyone, and I get angry about being put-out. Nothing but God could have changed my will that day, and He did.
Gentleness and self-control go hand in hand.
They are the last to master because the are completely against the nature of sinful beings. We want what we want, and we don’t want to exercise patience to get it.
As you grow in faith, these fruits will grow in you, even when you do not expect it! Rejoice that God has seen fit to share these with us even though we do not appreciate the as the will help introduce God’s Kingdom onto Earth as it is in Heaven!
“To speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people.” – Titus 3:2
“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” – 1 Corinthians 10:13