When I heard a month or so ago that “50 Shades of Grey” was being made into a movie, I was convicted to say something about it. Since then I have heard more news and I have equally been convicted every time I hear more.
“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God;” – 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
This is an area many men, including myself, struggle with. Many of us have struggled with sin as small as porn addiction all the way to perversions such as rape, incest, and worse. (Remember there is no small sin, all sin is sin in the eyes of God)
It is true that God leaves much to the imagination when it comes to bedroom rules. In fact, apart from only allowing sex with your opposite sex marriage partner, there are no explicit boundaries.
There are, however, rules regarding how we treat others. We are called to treat people with love, kindness, and gentleness.
Admittedly, I have not read “50 Shades of Grey”, nor do I want to. From what I understand, a millionaire playboy courts a woman, “entreating” her to BDSM. This would involve fornication at best, and embarrassment, shame, and degradation on the worse end.
It is my opinion that God’s plan for sexual relations do not include these feelings. It is for this reason that I believe BDSM is not permissible in the bedroom.
Sex is a wonderful creation God made to aid in deepening intimacy between two married people. It forces us to make ourselves vulnerable to our partners and to share our most private moments. We should honor God and treasure His gift to us, and not pervert it with “legitimized sin”.